Letter 3:

‘When it comes to this pass a relationship is in very serious trouble — and ours is — the tensions already present between us, have broken what we had into pieces.’

‘I find little comfort in your words, demeanour, responses — yet I know already, in making that plain observation, that the doors against me will now be shutting. It’s hopeless. What choice are we faced with now, given the impasse between us? Counselling? Concluding things and going our separate ways?’ ∼ ‘As to [her son] who has been a major point of difficulty for 18 months (you’ll deny this, come up with your random and inaccurate number of 6 meetings as though that explained away everything).’

Our note here: the paragraph which follows in this letter is far too vile to quote, containing much that is libellous and sexual pseudo-psychology. We move to the next:

‘So by extension, in your view I’m a liar, a fantasist, an inventor of stories, over cerebral. I’m none of these things.’  (It is apparent from his behaviour recorded in the posts on our site that Jim Perrin is ALL of these things!!) Continue reading →

Letter 2:

‘How to get out of this cycle of stress and recrimination?’ ∼ ‘We clearly have difficulties with each other and maybe we cannot resolve them.’ ∼ ‘I think we were in enough difficulty before Will’s death.’ ∼ ‘All the unresolved tensions have built up and collapsed on top of us.’ ∼ ‘This is necessarily from my side — it’s my view of things; my problems, and I am writing this down — as maybe I should have done months and months ago.’ ∼ ‘It was much more difficult.’ ∼ ‘When I moved in here I was shocked as well by the general chaos, self-centredness, destructiveness, that went on.’

‘I remember little incidents that could stand for many — and that is a recurrent theme in all of this.’ ∼ ‘Nobody else did very much at all to help in the everyday running of the house.’ ∼ ‘You were critical of me having that confab (with the boys) — you did not like it being done and accused me outright of hypocrisy.’ ∼ ‘I could go off at a tangent here — on the generally unhelpful outside intervention there has been in this situation, but to keep to the point, within the first month(s) of my being here, substantial problems had arisen between us which have been working through for over a year now, exacerbated by [her son’s name].’ ∼ ‘It has led to my becoming more and more angry and hence, unreasonable and hence, extreme in my vocabulary.’ ∼ ‘I see yet another instance of something serious going unaddressed, of evasion — and I rage against it. It’s a horrible mess Jac.’ Continue reading →

Firstly, there are notes of explanation:

Our sister Jac had been taken by her daughter to Yorkshire after the calamitous period prior to and following the Christmas of 2004; ref. our recent posts. She was utterly worn down: her chemotherapy had so depleted her reserves and weakened her that this period of calm and peace with a loved sister was to be the perfect interlude for her. She was not allowed however to enjoy it for long without being reminded of Jim Perrin’s ‘love and support’ for her. These excerpts are from just some of the many letters which he wrote to her during those three weeks when she had chosen to go and stay with her ‘Yorkshire’ sister: when he knew how desperately ill she was and how she longed for quietude…

We cannot sufficiently emphasise that Jac’s sons are lovely, normal, happy, out-going young men, occupied then as now with their lives and careers. The content of these letters has no foundation in reality and we feel that Jim Perrin would have done well to stay in his study in the caravan and write his books and travel articles, instead of spending his time haranguing our poor sister so mercilessly with this questionable onslaught. Continue reading →