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#MeToo

This contribution has been sent by one who was herself, and to her regret, involved (and sadly, she was one of many) with the author Jim Perrin, The Guardian Country Diary writer and former climber. We have described elsewhere on our site the many dishonest inconstancies and flagrant deceptions of which Jim Perrin, as a husband, partner and, not least, father, has habitually been guilty for the last two decades and as we have rightly said in a previous post: ‘he leaves a trail of emotional devastation…’

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“We who have suffered physically, psychologically, emotionally and financially from our relationships with this man can now feel a sense of community and hopefully some strength.

As these abuses are revealed in several areas of life, anyone who has suffered at the hands of Jim Perrin should feel more confident to speak out and know we are not alone.

And certainly not in his case as this very helpful website has vividly illustrated.”

[From a well-wisher.]   (Name and address supplied — as they say…)

Emotional, psychological and physical abuse…

A ground-breaking documentary on BBC 1 (‘Behind Closed Doors’, 14/03/2016) examines domestic abuse towards women and features three victims who have spoken out. The sad truth is that still, in the majority of such cases, the person attacked feels it impossible — and for many complex reasons — to challenge their abuser or ‘to go public’ with their experiences; thus they are unable to access the professional help which is available, and which could be a life-saver to them (both figuratively and actually). Much more publicity should be given to this under-the-radar outrage and any action which contributes to the help and support of those subjected to it is to be welcomed.

One invaluable step forward is the recent introduction of a law concerning emotional and psychological manifestations of abuse — until now very difficult to quantify — sometimes, but not always, a precursor to physical violence although perhaps more subtle as there are no physical bruises. Continue reading →

Jim Perrin’s ‘Terms of Bereavement’

On page 29 of West Jim Perrin gave details of a night he purported to have spent in the hospital whilst Jac was a patient there. (She had been admitted in the late Wednesday afternoon until mid-Wednesday of the next week as she was desperately ill in the final stage of her terminal cancer.) Intimate ‘details’ we could hardly believe. He told how ‘she was undisturbed after eight o’clock… Nobody arrived to tell me to leave. I crept quietly away at dawn before the routine of the hospital began.’

Today, 07/12/2015, we have spoken with a representative of the hospital concerned and asked them whether a patient in their care, so ill as our sister was, might possibly have been left, as Jim Perrin claimed, ‘undisturbed’ (that is — un-checked!) after 8pm. with no nurse even to look in on her to see if she was sleeping or if she might need some drug to alleviate pain. Could it be? Continue reading →