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Jim Perrin applies more pressure

Following the quite dreadful and emotionally exhausting week after Christmas — as well as the long months before — during which Jac had suffered from Jim Perrin’s intransigence, and her consequent decision to go to Yorkshire for three weeks to escape him, ref. our post Gone to Ground, he tried, as was always his way with her, to overrule her wishes.

Even in the aftermath of his uncontrolled assault on one of her sons,  ref. our post Breaking Point, and after the melodrama of his caravan ‘sit in’, he wrote to her from the caravan, only days later, a letter which was (unbelievably, considering the very recent circumstances) still full of recrimination, and annoyance with her sons, family and friends.  At the end of this two-page letter — with no hint of remorse, contrition or apology for his recent behaviour— he tried to persuade/prevent Jac from going away to stay with her ‘Yorkshire’ sister as they had planned after he had attacked her son…

Bearing in mind his latest transgressions — even his cruelty towards her, he still (amazingly, it seems to us) had the nerve to write to her in this vein.  For background to this, please read our post ‘Swallow Falls’ in which we describe how Jim Perrin had, in a conversation with our sister, blamed her family for his own failure to be able to relate to his son.  Not unnaturally she had refuted this yet given the circumstances we have shown above, he still, like a dog with a bone, wrote the letter from which we now quote, which demonstrates his determination always to justify himself: Continue reading →

Happier times

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This is the photograph of our sister, Jac (first left) with her children — taken in Spain — to which we referred in our previous post.  Jim Perrin had obliterated with a felt-tip pen the face of the son for whom he had conceived his extraordinary hatred: but later Jac’s ‘Welsh’ sister took away the negative and had it re-printed for her.  It is we think, a really lovely photograph, capturing an idyllic moment in their lives together — before Jim Perrin’s ill-fated presence in their family home (and minus his vile and despicable ‘blacking out’).

Jac’s sisters.

Jim Perrin’s breaking point

Christmas passed quietly enough and then, as they had been prevented by Jim Perrin from being there for the day itself, Jac’s youngest son came home with his girlfriend; a last visit before they left for a trip to South America — (Jac had convinced them not to change their travel plans so sure was she of her own recovery.)

Again the atmosphere became tense, as this son — even by his very presence — seemed to inflame Jim Perrin. He, still brooding about the ‘damage to his property’ and determined not to let the matter rest (despite having ‘shaken hands’ before Christmas) had no concern for our sister’s feelings or consideration for her illness and ensuing fragility. Instead, he sought the first opportunity to reignite the issue and by continuing to accuse her son increased the already existing tension within the household.

Maddened by the many imagined ‘wrongs’ done to him by this son, and so overcome with the irrational anger which had been building in him for some months, Jim Perrin went so far as to physically assault him… looking back it seems to us it was almost an inevitability, to such a pitch had he orchestrated his violence… Continue reading →